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No More Niceties, All Hail Kindness
There is a difference between being kind and being nice. Hang in there for me. Hear me out. Kindness is Karma. Nice sucks.
I once knew a friend who did everything right in the eyes of society. She was an intelligent woman with a sharp mind, wit, and tongue. She doled out compliments easily and pointed out everything great about you. Only in knowing her a little better, you’ll find shadow judgments hidden behind those nice words. I was one of the lucky few she dispensed such information to.
I don’t give out compliments as easily but when I do, I mean every single word of it. And I am not afraid to show my pure admiration and willingness to promote the hell out of this person, whether he or she asks for it.
This is the true essence of kindness.
Niceness, on the other hand, can be practiced, rehearsed, and then perfected.
Two decades of meeting people from all walks of life in their offices discussing projects, work, company direction, content management, web development, social media, work culture, and yes, life, I’ve learned how to differentiate niceness from kindness.
Kindness is raw.
It’s like the energy you feel because a person genuinely is out there for you. There was only one instance that I fell for the niceties and it ended…
