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Heart to Heart About Highly Sensitive People
As a society, we have come to think of being “too sensitive” as a flaw. It tampers with our ability to tap into our inner power or ability to optimize our other traits. We care too much, think too deeply, perceive too many unfounded things, imagine a world that does not exist, and can sometimes believe in things that others find ludicrous.
Those statements already make us sound like crazy weirdos but in reality, when we interact with people, this is sometimes our mental state. Ever since I was young, I was told “not to be too sensitive”, was considered a “problem child” or the “black sheep”. None of them is positive.
To others, highly sensitive people cannot move on as others should. They sit in a corner crying over the littlest of things, and may stop everything in their tracks to delve “a little deeper”. They feel too much and take things personally.
So people walk on eggshells around them or recognize it as their Achilles heels.
Adapting Sensitivity To The World Around Us
Because I am highly perceptive and sensitive, when I was growing up, I learned how to hide my emotions and feelings, turn away from people before they turn away from me, or shut down before something or someone hurts me. Because I am already one step ahead.
But it is because of my highly sensitive nature that I can harvest thoughts and emotions and put them into relatable materials that reach out to others.
When I perform on stage, I can let it all out because that is required of me. Being sensitive. When I write, even at work, I am required to step into other people’s shoes and speak and write like them. When I see something gruesome, unfair, or cruel, it leaves such a deep mark in me that I may never forget them.
We simply experience the world around us more vividly. We’re not weird snowflakes who need a ‘DANGER’ sign slapped on our chest to warn others so that they should start walking on eggshells around us. It’s not a choice. We are born with it although most of us outgrow some of the things that previously overwhelm our younger selves.
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